When I had my son about 20 years ago I was a young
mother who was scared of what child birth would feel like. I remember it was on
a Tuesday evening on August 6, 1991 when I felt a gush of water that flooded my
feet. I knew something was soon to happen. I was rushed to the hospital in an
ambulance with my mother by my side to support me. Things happened fast, my
son's father didn't have the chance to make it to the delivery room because he
was out of town. The baby wanted to come and was not waiting for anyone, not
even dad. I was dilated and ready for delivery by the time I got to the
hospital. Once the delivery room was prepared and it was time to give birth, I
was overwhelmed with pain. I was told to push several times and finally my son
was born six pounds fifteen ounces. I was filled with so many emotions I cried
and cried my new baby boy was born healthy. He reminded me of a little frog
when I held him close. After having my son I went through a period of detachment.
After all, motherhood was a new experience for me. I knew I loved my son but I
felt some what disconnected. As I gained more experience as a mother and with
the support of my family, I can honestly say it was one of the most beautiful experiences
I ever had. I have two children and both births are memorable but having my son
was the first time giving birth therefore my emotions and experience was not
the same as when I gave birth to my daughter. When I gave birth to my daughter
it was ten years later, I was an experience mother and new what to expect, and
thus it was a different experience. I personally feel that birth is definitely
part of child development. My personal opinion is that child development begins
from the time there is conception.
I recently read an article named Birth and a
Vision: Lamaz Childbirth Education in Kenya, East Africa written by Jennifer I.
Carroll. Years ago in Nairobi, Kenya when women gave birth, it was done in the
home. A pregnancy in Kenya is view by family and the community as a blessing
from God. The women in the family normally took care of pregnant woman with an
elder woman, who attended the woman’s needs through birth. Today elder woman
who attend pregnant women are called Traditional Birth Attendant (TBA). In
recent years child birth in Nairobi, Kenya hospitals now have access to Lamaze
class and men are more supportive during the birthing experience. Although
stricken with poverty, unemployment, and struggling economy women still use
TBA's to give birth in their homes because giving birth's in home is less
costly. However, births in the urban areas of Kenya, women are not as prepared
or informed about giving birth. The Lamaze program was setup to inform and
educate women throughout their pregnancy.
In the United States many women who don't have
health insurance have access to free clinics that provide services while their
pregnant. Medicaid paid by federal government and states often help pay for
hospital costs and medical visits for low income women. The financial
difference I believe plays a large role in the development of children.
Poverty, uneducated woman, and limited support during pregnancy are a prevalent
comparison of the differences with the United States and Nairobi, Kenya.
If you’re interested in the article, you can find here
websitehttp://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1595210/pdf/JPE130027.pdf
Steffanie,
ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your birth experience. I had a six year space between my first and second and for me it was almost like having a first born again. I don't think I was able to fully be aware and comprehend what my body was going through the first pregnancy and birth, so the second time I was able to be more aware and enjoy the experience. I am wondering after ten years between your two children if you had a similar experience?
Thank you for sharing that. We all tend to think of child birth as a beautiful thing but being a mother (especially a 1st time mother) is the most scary thing in the world. I was 21 when I had my son and I felt so overwhlemed. Even though looking back I knew what to do I just always felt like I was in a race with myself to learn how to be a mother.
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ReplyDeleteThank you for sharing your experience with us! I read your blog and everyone's comments and I feel like such a late bloomer!!! I waited until I was 37 to have my son last May, and the unexpected was scary as heck! I couldn't imagine going through it in my early 20s!!! I must admit motherhood is a beautiful thing but also very life changing, especially after 37 years of doing ME!!!
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